Women At the Well Ministries

A ministry to women who suffer with mental and emotional problems


Rise in Number of Domestic Violence Not a Rise at all

Posted on March 18, 2015 at 5:00 PM

I posted this about six months ago, but I find it necessary to post again. I keep coming across women who are "stuck" in abusinve situations. They stay because they are afrais to leave, or think they are to remain in that place. It is not God's will that any person remain in an abusive situation.

If this describes you, please get help:

In too many of my decisions, I read the Bible looking for Scriptures to fit my need. That is manipulation. That is when the devil can deceive us, saying, “Has God indeed said …?”


Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said to the woman, "Has God indeed said, 'You shall not eat of every tree of the garden'?"

~ Genesis 3:1 ~


God does not tell everyone to return to a bad situation. However, He can use any circumstance for His glory. His ways are higher than our ways. He knows things we cannot possibly know. His protection comes by supernatural means, if necessary. He has called us to live peaceably, if it is possible. Sometimes it is not possible to live in peace with everyone.


The Bible tells us that love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things (1Corinthians 13:7). To endure all things does not mean that we are to ignore or tolerate abuse. It is important to read the whole counsel of God in order to interpret it the way He intended. There are not many interpretations of the Bible. There is only one—His! It’s up to us to learn His interpretation.


If you are the victim of abuse, you need to remove yourself and any children in the home and get to a safe place. The Lord does not want you to go through this abuse, and He does not want you to go through the pain alone. Separate and let God deal with the abuser and deal with you each separately. Both of you need healing.


If someone you know is going through abuse, tell someone you can trust. Don’t ignore it. Talk to the person going through the abuse. Ask the person how you can help. Tell someone like a pastor or pastor’s wife, a social worker, teacher, or the police. If it’s a child, by all means, let someone know.




Depending on the situation, it may be best to leave without notice. It may be best to have an escort when leaving.


Posted below are National Hotline Numbers. Look in the yellow pages under shelters or social services for safe places in your area. If you have access to a computer, go online and search for help. There are churches that will give you information. Be prepared. It may save your life or someone else’s life.


Make sure there is genuine, new, fresh fruit in the abuser’s life (and your life) before returning to the home. This may be a long process, but then the situation didn’t become abusive overnight either. If you are married, I am not advocating divorce! Let the Lord determine how long you should separate.


If you are in trouble, do you really want help? Not everyone in trouble wants out of it. Sadly, I have talked with women who would rather stay with the abuser. Fear keeps them there. They fear that no one else would want them. They fear the future. They fear being unable to take care of the children. They fear not being able to work or find housing. At least they know what the future holds if they stay with the abuser.


This is wrong thinking.



Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?



First, you must want help. We can be such stubborn human beings. We isolate ourselves and think no one out there can understand what we are going through, or we believe no one cares. We serve a big God. There is nothing impossible for God. He is more than willing to provide help. God will provide Himself as our help.


Second, we must receive the help He offers. If you want help, are you willing to do whatever is necessary in God’s will? He is your help, and He provides people who will help you.

Even if you are angry with God, He will help you, if you allow Him to help.


Recently, with all of the media focusing on domestic violence by the NFL players, some would think this is a resurging of this crime. Not so! Numbers have continued to be alarming. However, more and more women are braving it and telling her story. I understand what it is like to have to run to a women's shelter because your husband is abusing you. I know what it's like when your husband is one inch from your nose, telling you he can rearrange your face so nobody will recognize you. I understand what it is like to have a gun put to your head. I understand what it is like to be kicked, hit, slapped, spit on, and dragged across the floor. I understand what it is like leaving your home secretly to find shelter where no one knows where you are.


If you are experiencing domestic violence, please get help. You don't have to stay in that. That is not God's will for you to go through that and remain. That is not what is meant by "love bears all things."


These are hotlines and emergency numbers for all types of abuse. Please use whichever number you need. If there is someone you can call, that you feel safe with, call them.


If you know someone who needs any of these numbers, please share this post. It could save someone's life!



Phone: 800.4.A.CHILD or (800) 422-4453
Child Abuse victims, parents, concerned individuals
Darkness to Light

Phone: 866.FOR.LIGHT or (866) 367-5444
Children and adults needing local information or resources about sexual abuse
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Phone: 800.799.SAFE or (800) 799-7233
TTY: (800) 787-3224
Video phone only for deaf callers: (206) 518-9361
Children, parents, friends, offenders
National Parent Helpline
Phone: 855.4APARENT or (855) 427-2736; available 10:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m. PST weekdays
Parents and caregivers needing emotional support and links to resources
National Human Trafficking Outline
Phone: (888) 373-7888
Victims of human trafficking and those reporting potential trafficking situation


National Alliance on Mental Illness

Phone: 800.950.NAMI or (800) 950-6264; available 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. EST weekdays
Individuals, families, professionals
Child Find of America

Phone: 800.I.AM.LOST or (800) 426-5678
Parents reporting lost or abducted children, including parental abductions
Child Find of America – Mediation
Phone: 800.A.WAY.OUT or (800) 292-9688
Parents (abduction, prevention, child custody issues)
Phone: 800.THE.LOST or (800) 843-5678
TTY: (800) 826-7653
Families and professionals (social services, law enforcement)
Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN)

Phone: 800.656.HOPE or (800) 656-4673)
Rape and incest victims, media, policymakers, concerned individuals
National Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Information Center

Phone: (800) 784-6776
Families, professionals, media, policymakers, concerned individuals
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Phone: 800.273.TALK or (800) 273-8255
TTY: 800.799.4TTY or (800) 799-4889
Families, concerned individuals
National Runaway Switchboard

Phone: 800.RUNAWAY or (800) 786-2929
Runaway and homeless youth, families

































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