Women At the Well Ministries

A ministry to women who suffer with mental and emotional problems


Lesson #5 in WAW Bible study is all about forgiveness. We talk about what it means when I say I can't forgive myself. This is more about having trouble accepting God's love. It's more about the trouble accepting that God has forgiven you. Maybe you find it difficult to accept His love because you fell unloved, unlovable, or simply worthless. Maybe you think you have messed up too much or you should have known better than to do what you continue to do. Maybe you find it difficult to trust God as a male or father figure, because of the abuse you suffered through the hands of your father, stepfather, brother, uncle, etc.

If you learn how to receive the love of God, there will not be an issue of not forgiving yourself.

Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. 

Ephesians 4:32 NLT

Forgiven people forgive! That is because we are eternally grateful for God’s forgiveness. Outside of Christ, I was stuck in a cycle of unforgiveness. Forgiveness is something to be passed on today, not to be stored away for some unique future occasion.

Unforgiveness can stunt the health of our relationships. Its cancerous affect eats away at our delight in God, family and friends. Unforgiveness waits to explode at any moment of disappointment. 

Do you hold a grudge that has a hold of you? Does resentment hang over you like a bad dream, only you never wake up? Forgiveness frees you from the bitter taste of bitterness and replaces it with the sweet taste of grace. 

Make your forgiveness specific. Did a relative abuse you as a child? Were you fired from a job? If they have abandoned you or are dead, write a letter expressing Christ’s love and your forgiveness.

What if you forgive someone and his or her response is non-existent, or negative? You cannot control another’s response, only your own. Trust and obey. Love and kindness tear down walls of anger—grace and forgiveness build bridges of hope.

And when I forgive whatever needs to be forgiven, I do so with Christ’s authority for your benefit, so that Satan will not outsmart us. For we are familiar with his evil schemes.
2 Corinthians 2:10b-11 NLT

Prayer: Lord show me who needs my total forgiveness. Regardless of their response, help me trust and obey You in asking their forgiveness. What is the best way for me to forgive them?


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